Posted on April 15, 2018
September is Pediatric Cancer Awareness Month, and in honor of Princess Alexis, I wanted to help bring awareness by sharing some of her story. This photo session took place in August 2017, with the ripeness of summer warmth helping us celebrate her incredible new diagnosis: REMISSION. What a beautiful, wonderful, splendid word! I wanted to make her feel like a fairy tale princess, so I rented this spectacular Cinderella dress from Anna Triant Couture that Alexis picked out, and we drove out to The Village at Grand Traverse Commons, with it’s spires and golden brick castleish beauty before heading to the beach at Clinch Park and downtown Traverse City.
Alexis is a cancer warrior, but for this one night she wasn’t a little girl in remission, with surgery scars and an old soul, she was simply a princess, believing her dreams will all come true! I had grandiose ideas of poses and places, but honestly, I barely got a handful of images of her looking and smiling. She was in her own world, twirling and dancing, talking a mile a minute, running here and there with me trying to keep up. I finally gave in and just let her be a princess. Like she was always meant to be.
Alexis: “Did you know that EVERY year on Halloween, and I mean EVERY one of my EIGHT Halloweens, I have been Cinderella?!”
Girl, you don’t need a Prince Charming or a Fairy Godmother, you were BORN a Warrior Princess!
Every day, 43 kids are diagnosed with cancer. Despite the advances in research and treatment, those numbers continue to rise. More than 40,000 kids will undergo treatment for cancer this year. One out of 8 will not survive.
I don’t know about you, but I can’t even write those words without crying.
The average age of diagnosis is 6. Kindergarten age.
Alexis was 14 months when her parents found themselves in a nightmare that they couldn’t wake up from. Walking into the ER with a sick baby, it was then a whirlwind of tests, scans, and the sobering reality of stage 4 neuroblastoma. They didn’t go home for 44 days. And that was just the beginning.
If you’re like me you’re wondering, what can I do? How can I help? First, pray for these kids and their families. Second, get in touch with your nearest children’s hospital. I guarantee there is a link on the website to either donate or volunteer. Check it out. Ask yourself honestly what you can do to make things better with the resources you have. Get involved. GO now.
I’m hoping to bring awareness to childhood cancer. But the reality is that no amount of statistics and numbers can really reach you. It’s the stories. The faces. The families struggling to bring some sense of normal back to the lives of their children who are so sick. Hoping the nightmare will end. Praying the pain will stop because watching your child in agonizing pain is a special kind of hell.
In the beginning of the journey lots of people offer help, stop by, bringing food or gifts, trying to find ways to comfort, but often they grow discouraged or feel helpless when the fight drags on.
I remember when my son was diagnosed with a congenital heart defect and we went through the process of corrective heart surgery, tons of doctors appointments, driving all over, plus having an infant and toddler to care for felt overwhelming. It was nice when well-meaning people would ask me how they could help, or to “let them know” if I needed anything, but my mind would go absolutely blank. I couldn’t organize my thoughts into broad helpful ideas, much less concise instructions or particular needs. At times the burden of asking for help when I was such a mess was simply additional weight on my shoulders.
A family dealing with a child who is fighting cancer goes through something much more intense than what we experienced. With a much longer time frame of appointments, hospital stays, restrictions on visitors and an unforgiving need to prevent germs and infections.
Start by asking “How can I help you?” If you get the deer-in-the-headlight look, try more specific questions, like “Can I bring you a hot meal tomorrow for dinner or one to put in the freezer for later?”, or “Is there a day this week that I can come pick up the other kids and take them to the park or keep them all day so you can rest and focus?”
Think of what you know about their particular situation and possible difficulties and ask specific questions. Don’t feel bad if they don’t respond right away or not at all. It’s not personal. They’re just overwhelmed and trying to survive.
A few things that are ALWAYS helpful:
Gift Cards. Think Wal-Mart, grocery stores, and gas cards.
Home cooked meals.
Hospital life is not only emotionally exhausting, it’s expensive. It’s being away from home for weeks on end. The meals aren’t free and sometimes aren’t very good. Driving back and forth to take care of your responsibilities at home takes money for gas. And then there’s the time off work and the loss of pay. As if your child being sick isn’t devastating enough. Gift cards might feel too impersonal, but they relieve some of that very real financial burden.
If you do not know someone personally who is going through this, I hope these stories touch your heart and that you donate to organizations or take the time to volunteer!
Alexis was in the fight of her life for far too long, but is officially in remission since July 2017!
“We shall draw from the heart of suffering itself the means of inspiration and survival.” ~Winston Churchill
We balk at suffering. We hate it, turn away from it, close our eyes and refuse to see it, until it’s someone next to us. It makes us feel helpless and we seek comfort, peace, and safety so hard that it blinds us.
We’re terrified of suffering, and in our blindness we fail to see that suffering has power. It’s never wasted. From the ashes of their innocence these children rise up as warriors, full of hope, strength, purpose, and a passion for helping their fellow sufferers. Listen to their stories. Empower their dreams. Support the supporters.
“Alexis, what do you want to be when you grow up?”
“I. Have. OPTIONS.”
Tears sprang to my eyes with the fierceness in her voice as she said those words. The world in front of me blurred as I struggled to find my voice again. I couldn’t see through my viewfinder, so I set the camera down on my lap.
“What options are your favorite ones to think about right now?”
“Umm….let’s see…”, she pondered, expressive eyes looking all around. “I have SO many options! I could be a mountain climber, or an artist, or a swimming instructor, or a veterinarian! I love to paint! And actually…..I am already a mountain climber. I’ve climbed up Papa Mitch lots of times!”
Her words, spoken with such conviction, such hope…. left me speechless, my heart squeezing tightly as I watched her flutter off in her princess gown, back to her twirling.
Her life hung in the balance for so very long.
And I’m not just talking about the chemo, radiation, surgery, and immunotherapy that required every ounce of her energy to fight for her life daily for a over a year.
I’m talking about relapse. At the time of her diagnosis, the statistics were beyond grim. If she survived the initial horror of neuroblastoma and treatment, the rate of relapse was high.
“Approximately 50-60% of high-risk neuroblastoma patients will have a relapse. There is no cure for relapsed neuroblastoma.” *Journal of Medicine, 2010.
Yes, her life hung in the balance for far longer than just the treatment. Hope for a future is a very precious thing. Every time she went in for scans her family held their breath, praying, begging, daring to hope as each scan came back clean. When she entered into remission this summer they could finally speak of her future in terms of years instead of months. Hope! Sweet, wonderful hope.
Take hold of those dreams, Alexis, and NEVER let go! Keep reaching for those stars and climbing those mountains. We can’t wait to see how far you’ll go!
“A dream is a wish your heart makes
When you’re fast asleep
In dreams you will lose your heartaches
Whatever you wish for, you keep
Have faith in your dreams and someday
Your rainbow will come smiling through
No matter how your heart is grieving
If you keep on believing
The dream that you wish will come true”
“Can I please please please take some pictures?! I just want to see it. Is this how you do it?” I. Could. Not. Say. NO. To. Her. Until she started twirling with the camera. 😉
I want to say a special thank you to Alexis’s mom, who shared these precious pictures of what life with pediatric cancer looked like. She opened up about the many struggles and fears of that time, and I still can’t read those words without choking up. What I’ve shared here was just the tip of the iceberg for her family, she could write a book about all that they’ve been through! Just take a moment, please, and say a prayer for those families caught up in the fight for life against pediatric cancers. Reach out to one of the many organizations that support these families and find out how you can support someone who needs your help.
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Posted on March 11, 2018
I just LOVE spring blooming orchard pictures! I can’t wait for this year’s warm weather to pop open those beautiful, heavenly white blossoms!
Kari, the incredibly talented artist at August Afternoon Photography is such an amazing person who inspires me so much! I love her to death and look forward to the times we get to work together! Especially when that means I get to capture her and her sweet family!
Our spring pictures last year had two very special assignments:
*spoiler alert! Baby brother was born in December 2017! (I’m constantly behind on this blogging thing!)
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Posted on August 27, 2017
You know those days when you realize you have completely forgotten to squeeze in your own family for a session in the middle of busy season? When Grandma is wondering when she’ll see the traditional yearly capture of her grandkids, it’s November already, and the color in the foliage is so faded it’s actually non-existent? How about those days when you think it’ll work out just fine to get the kids ready for a photo shoot after school, drive half an hour, and still catch the light…..but then you realize Daylight Savings Time just ended and that means the sun goes down IN LIKE TEN MINUTES?!
Yes, it was exactly one of those days when we hurried off to find a tiny pocket of light, hoping to capture this moment in their lives before time raced on again. And you know what? I’m glad we did!
I’m always glad when I can look back and see these days, the hectic stress falls away and I remember these smiles and see how quickly they’re changing, growing, creeping closer to the day when they won’t make my laundry pile higher or leave socks out in the dirt, when there won’t be so many meals to fix or dinner plates to wash. Capture these moments while you can! You won’t regret it.
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Posted on March 3, 2017
I love orchard blossom time! There is no better spring moment than when you can walk through an orchard in full bloom, each aisle becoming its very own “White Way of Delight”! Every tree “bestarred with its tufts of blossom”.
I think orchard blossom sessions became my very favorite the moment this family stepped in front of my camera last May! This session was crazy and fun as we wrangled the little ones for a few good shots, but I love how they all turned out. Even the ones where little sis is trying to bite big bro for blowing all of her dandelion fuzz before she got the chance! Ha! I love this family and we are blessed to be part of their lives!
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Posted on January 17, 2017
Sweet Baby D! Such a beautiful baby girl, growing so very fast! It seems like she was just coming in with her parents for her newborn pictures, and then just moments later for her first birthday.
Now we’re coming up on her second birthday and she is a proud big sis to a new baby brother!
Thank you for letting me capture these precious moments!
Her crocodile tear just KILLS me.
There is nothing sweeter than the simplicity of a baby in a white onesie!!
WHAT is this nasty stuff?! The cake smash was definitely NOT her favorite thing! 😉
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Posted on December 26, 2016
2016 is swiftly winding to a close, and yet here I am still catching up on 2015 sessions and images!
Today I’m sharing a few of my girls last fall, when we had these gorgeous sister sets from Rainey’s Closet rented for fall family pictures. I love how sweet they all looked in these coordinating sets that were pulled together by the owner, Erica. It was such an easy process to rent the gorgeous clothes and accessories and I hope to do more styled sessions for children in the future! What little girl doesn’t want to be a princess for a day?! My girls absolutely love dressing up with layers of lace and tulle for birthday pictures.
Are you setting goals for 2017 yet? I know I’ve been writing down my lists of goals for about a week now, looking forward to seeing progress as we begin a new year!
I have goal lists for my personal life and for my business.
Personal goals include reading lists and activity plans with the kids, daily habits for better health and relationships, achieving things that I’ve been saying I want to do “someday”, that sort of thing.
Business goals include finishing specific educational courses and learning new skills, creating inspiration boards, take a marketing class, achieve certain benchmarks in both sessions booked and sales so that growth can continue in an upward pattern.
I’ll be honest, though! I’m not good at setting goals and I tend to set the bar low enough that I’m assured of clearing it with ease.
What AM I good at? Procrastinating on those low goals until the very last minute. Yikes!
So here’s to a higher aim, more focus, and less procrastinating in 2017! We can DO this!!
So what are your goals for this New Year, and how do you make sure you stay on track? Any tips and tricks that really help you maintain that focus?
Whatever the plans you have – I hope you have a wonderful New Year’s Celebration and enter 2017 with hope and cheer and a sense of good purpose!
Posted on December 13, 2016
Because when it’s almost 60 degrees in the middle of December, you just have to get out there and have fun in your Christmas jammies!
Have I ever mentioned how much we love Hanna Andersson pajamas? We love the fit, the softness, and the quality that makes it possible to hand down well-loved pjs through these three sisters. 😉
And if I’m being honest, Emma is already wearing the jammies that Joshua was wearing in these images. Because red and green stripes are for EVERYONE in the month of December!
It’s not just my blog that I’m behind on! I finally had some of these adorable pictures printed and framed for my own mantle. Usually I stick to a fall-themed assortment of pictures because I LOVE me some October goodness! But this year when I was decorating for Christmas I decided it was time to switch it up and print my favorite holiday memories, and I’m so glad I did. What’s better than being reminded of the wonder and joy of your children during the holiday season?!
Print your memories. Look back on the good times. Embrace the fleeting moments.
Those are the things you won’t regret.
Merry Christmas, Everyone!
Posted on December 5, 2016
It’s hard to believe – but these sweet pictures of A. and M. were taken almost exactly a year ago! And what a year it has been for these girls.
I’m going to let you in on a little secret…. the new year is going to bring them…. a new baby BROTHER!!!
We are so excited for this family, who have been friends of ours for so many years. I can’t wait to meet the new little man who will be such an amazing addition to their family.
Plus, she homeschools her girls! Guys, this mama really rocks! She’s an amazing person and I’m honored to call her a friend. You might recognize her from some of my previous work, she has always been up for random, last-minute, crazy ideas for photo shoots, like this day in Dec. 2015 when the air was too warm to pass up some quick pictures of the kids for Christmas. That kind of warm weather is just NOT typical of northern Michigan.
Now it’s time for new Christmas picture fun! But first I’m going to try and catch up a little more from this year’s sessions.
Merry Christmas Y’all!